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Things You Need to Know About Step-Parents!

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I LOVE being a step-mom! I love my step-sons…or my boys as I affectionately call them! We all know they aren’t biologically my boys, but I love them as if they are!  Earlier this summer I came across THIS article about being a step-parent and felt as though I could have written it myself!

I feel the need to preface or follow up what I refer to my step-sons as with a disclaimer because someone might get the wrong idea or think I’m trying to steal the thunder from their mom and honestly, it’s exhausting because that isn’t what I’m trying to do! While being a step-mom is one of the greatest “jobs” I’ve ever had, it’s also one of the hardest, but I would never change it for the world. So, if you’ll stick with me and be willing to learn a bit about what it’s like to be a step-parent…

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My True Feelings About Mother’s Day

— Katy Flint9 Comments

Can I tell you a secret? I hate Mother’s Day! I love honoring my mom, which I feel that I do throughout the year and of course do my best to make her feel extra special on Mother’s Day, but being a step-mom on Mother’s Day is hard!  This is one of those real times that choosing the path I have is very difficult and the feelings are very raw!

R & M have a mom who is very present in their life and she is a good one!  I will NEVER try to take that away from her!  However, I’d by lying if I didn’t say that it hurts to not be recognized on Mother’s Day for the things that I do to help support and better the boys’ lives as well as love them unconditionally.  I don’t blame anyone for this, I’m not angry with them, T, or anyone else.  It just sucks and there is no good solution.  We try very hard to be very respectful of the boys’ mom and so we don’t make a big deal out of this type of thing (until now…whoops!)  In fact, while I was driving R to his moms this morning, I said to him, “you know Sunday is Mother’s Day…you need to make sure to make your mom a card or something!”  I encourage their relationship and focus on that she is their mother!  However, I will admit that every once in a while, it would be nice if someone recognized me for what I do for the boys.

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Dispelling Some Blended Family Myths

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I’m very excited and honored to have a guest post today by The Blended Family Mom!  As a fellow step-mom she understands some of the hard parts of being wife #2 and a step-mom, but also focuses on the positives and making the situation better instead of focusing on the negative and the drama! I love this post and even if you aren’t a part of a blended family, I believe that every married person and parent can find a couple of takeaways from it!  Enjoy!

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I finally met the man of my dreams … this new marriage will be wonderful!
His kids are great … it won’t be a problem to step in and be a step parent!!
Parenting stepchildren is no different from parenting my own kids.

Did you ever make any of these statements, or think any of these thoughts? Did you find them to be totally true in your new blended family?  When I met my husband, Dan, he was pretty much everything that I wanted in a man and in my next marriage. Yes, I am an open and affectionate woman – any kid would love me; after all, I was a first-grade teacher! And parenting another man’s children … no problem!

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